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Trusting With Your Life

My friend, who is only 38 and just had her second baby, ended up on the operating table for life-saving open heart surgery. I was visiting her when the surgeon walked in. As I was shaking his hand, I couldn’t help but to be completely star struck. Here are the hands that were in my friend’s chest for 8 hours performing a surgery so difficult that he himself could not believe that she was pulling through and on her way to a full recovery.

As I was sitting there listening to him, I couldn’t help but to wonder what it would feel like to be on the other side of that trust, to be someone who has a type of job where, day in, day out, people literally put their life in your hands. How can someone take the pressure of knowing that patients and ALL of their entourage, are counting on you to bring their loved one back to them?

Regardless of the type of job that we do, we all want to do well and we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do great work. When we fail, we feel bad, we get a bad review and maybe even get fired. When medicine fails (traditional or not), people lose a friend, a wife or a husband, a parent, a sibling or even sometime a child.

So, I like to keep things in perspective, continue to do my best work and take pride in what I do, but also be gentle with myself, recognize my limits and when I get too stressed or worried about work or life in general, I like to remind myself that lucky for me, I am not the one developing a cure for cancer.

I take a few lines out of this blog to give thanks to all of the great people, health care professionals and others, who have the courage and the ability to take on that pressure. I owe them my life and now, my friend does too.

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How Would You React?

I received an email with some quotes from Maya Angelou. This one really hit home for me: “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights.”

I love this quote and I think it to be very true. What’s great about this is that the way we react to a situation is totally up to us. How empowering!

So let’s play a little game: You are at the restaurant with 3 other people and you are receiving the worst service and the food keeps coming out wrong. Faced with this situation you:

A)     Laugh it off, tell yourself that it’s just diner and that you are in good company and that is really the only thing that matters

B)      You make comments about how bad this is, you are getting agitated and are not able to concentrate on the conversations around the table because you are getting consumed by what is happening with the service and the food

C)      You yell at the waiter, return all the food and swear to never come here again and leave the restaurant.

There are many ways to react to a situation and the choice is totally up to us but the impact is wider. In situation A, everyone keeps having a good time but in situation B and C, the diner is ruined and the waiter is crying.

So when faced with a difficult situation take a deep breath and ask yourself…How do I choose to react to this? And watch the impact your decision is having on you (your stress level) and everyone else around you. One thing that I try to do now in my life is to act in a way that I can look back at the stressful/hard events in my life and feel proud of the way I handled them…and believe me, with 2 kids under 5, I have lots of opportunities to practice!

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